Dating as a single mom takes more scrutiny than those who may be simply dating for fun or just one-night stands. We are responsible for the people we entertain in our lives and those who will be in close contact with our children.
We all make mistakes, we’re human. However, these actions should be avoided at all cost.
If you are currently dating or are planning to re-enter the dating scene in the near future, these are every single mother’s key tips to avoid.
Rushing the progression of a relationship because your child’s father is absent
As a single mom you are the primary care giver for your child and like most if not all parents you would like a reprieve. There is nothing wrong with wanting a man to help raise your child especially when the absent father is not proving emotional, mental, spiritual, financial or physical support.
The problem arises when we are so desperate for a father figure for our child we rush the dating process, skipping over red flags that in the end will lead to the detriment of not just us but, our child.
Getting to know a person and possibly the potential step parent to your children takes time. Don’t rush!
Single Moms dating only because they’re lonely.
The emotions that are attached to loneliness can at times blur our judgement. We may feel that our time for companionship is now and we’d not wait another moment.
Consequently, loneliness is a breeding ground for desperation and desperation produces foolish actions, at times loving yourself has to be enough.
Wanting the image of a “complete” family
There are some single moms who will date a man simply because the image of a complete family portrayed to society is more important than anything else.
Single moms rob themselves and their children of a healthy family when their actions are based off unrealistic “relationship goals”. Our desire to have what appears to be the perfect family can inhibit our choices. For the most part we only have the “highlight reel” of relationships that people share. We don’t know any of the true behind the scenes.
When dating as a single mom, take your time. The finish line to marital bliss is not moving. We can get there either by an Olympic style sprint or a slow observant walk. I for one prefer the later.