I encourage each single mom to dig deep pass the pains of what could’ve been and clasp the only thing that will heal and give us hope, the mighty hand of God.
The norms we experience, that most people will not understand, will grip the hope we have and strangle it until nothing remains but bitterness and resentment.
As a single mom you can get bogged down with the ebbs and flows that accompany our plight.
Diminished Hope
The brutal truth of the life of a single mom is complicated yet, simple we desire love and not rejection. A love that will fill the void left by the absent parent and simultaneously heal the brokenness created by abandonment.
The complication arises when we hold men to a standard and requirement that only God can meet. It is unwise to believe that a single person can meet all your needs and also Never disappoint you.
We’re Human.
There is a place in our hearts that is reserved ONLY for God, no one can or better yet should ever be in that place.
When we apply pressure to a man to “complete” us or “put us in our place” we will inevitably end up with diminished hope.
The scriptures tell us time and time again that God is a jealous God and that He must come first in our lives. If we fail to be accountable for whom we place in the space that is “God sized” the image of our hope will be minimized.
Increasing Hope
The joyful aspect of hope is that it has the capacity to grow daily, even moment by moment. We have the power to change how we view our current circumstances and by doing so we can increase our hope.
I am a big believer in learning from our past and not repeating the cycle over and over that caused us such heartache. We can take what made us downhearted and tearful yesterday and use it as motivation to cultivate a brighter tomorrow.
How?
God! Not in the abstract mindset that some have ascribed to Him but, an intimate life altering relationship. I cannot mention hope without the name of God. He is the one who can transform our lives.
The catalyst is, our mind processes. We have to be willing to do the work of getting to know God and committing to daily communication with Him.
The life of a single mom is steeped in survival. We don’t know how we’ll provide for our children but, somehow, we do our best to “make things happen”. It is in us to be creative and resilient.
Relentless Hope
One thing I know for certain is that single moms know how to persevere. We may have the world pressing down upon our shoulders but, like a bird flying in the rain, we continue to soar.
As a once single mom, I’ve learned to push past the hurt and pain with the help of the Lord. I know the reason why I have a testimony; it was by the grace of God I stand here today.
God promises to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we may ask or think. I take the verse in Ephesians 3:20 to heart. If we ask Him, God can give us a hope that will surpass anything we could ever imagine.
Be encouraged single mom, the peace and hope you desire is only a prayer away.